01 February, 2012

Insecure Writer's Support Group: How Many People Know You Blog About Writing?

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I'm not that shy about telling people I write. If someone asks me "Hey, what do you do for fun?", writing is usually among my answers. I'm happy to tell you about my current project, the genre it's in, even details about the characters or setting.

Blogging is a different story. I can count the number of people who know I blog on one hand (well, maybe two . . . I forget exactly, but it's a small number) and even fewer know, specifically, what my blog is about.


I'm not really sure why I don't tell people about it more often. I'm proud of my little slice of the web, and I love the bloggers I know, but there's something to blogging that I'm reluctant to talk about. I think it may be because I'm introverted in person and I worry what people will think of the internet me; that they'll interpret what I say here as stupid and/or start seeing me differently--in a bad way.

In relation to writing, perhaps it's just the fact that my writing is fictional and my blog is reality. I'm not talking about some made-up character who chatters to me in my head on the internet; I'm posting my own ideas and thoughts, so I don't have the excuse of it being "just a story".

Or maybe I'm taking the whole thing too seriously. I've been known to do that, of course.

How many people know you blog? Is it something you're willing to mention to people right off the bat? What, for you, is the more sensitive topic: writing or blogging?


-----The Golden Eagle

84 comments:

Pat Hatt said...

Yeah I can count on one hand those who know and only like one of them know how to find me. I'm not sure I overly care, but I like them not knowing, not sure why really. But I guess it's kind of like it's own seperate world, blogging on one side and real world on the other.

Christine Danek said...

I never thought about this before. I think I'm more willing to tell about my writing vs. blogging. Probably for the same reasons. They may read it and think I'm a strange bug.

Old Kitty said...

My closest friends and some of my family know I blog - I emailed them ordering them to join me when I started this blog! LOL!

But I don't tell anyone else who doesn't need to know!

It's weird though - people I know who tweet or Facebook(acquaintances, colleagues) are quite happy to say they tweet or Facebook! None would say if they blog or not!

Take care
x

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Emily Rose said...

I really don't tell people I blog, but it's more because the opportunity never presents its self. I think my cyber personality is way different than my actual personality (I'm a bit more outgoing on my blog) so that might confuse people. I suppose I wouldn't be shy about saying I blog, but I don't really advertise it.

Holly L'Oiseau said...

Not a ton of the circles I move about in know I blog. And really it's because they DON'T write. My blog is really for writers. And while writers (hopefully) find my blog interesting, I think non-writers would just be bored senseless. So I figure, why bother talking about it?

Siv Maria said...

Funny thing is that everyone I tell about either my writing or my blogging is "How much money do you make?" Seriously? I have just stopped telling anyone that I blog or write because as long as I have nothing published I am not taken seriously and my kids are just embarrassed. Ha ha no matter what I do that seems to be the case-

Joshua said...

I don't talk in public settings, so telling people I'm a writer: not going to happen.

Laurel Garver said...

I rarely talk about the blog to strangers because I guess I worry it sounds like boring shop-talk online to them. My posts used to automatically cross post to my personal FB page but for some reason don't any more, so even fewer people who know me in real life are aware of the blogging.

I'm more apt to talk about doing "creative writing" and can mention my lit mag publications at least.

MISH said...

My basic problem is that I'm a private person and don't really like talking about myself. Period.

I don't have a problem talking about my blogging but I'm reluctant to tell people I write. I can't bear to see that strange incomprehensible expression that dawns on some faces... and I don't have the time, energy or inclination to explain myself.

gaylene said...

Just like these other comments, I don't tell people about my blog very often. I think it's true, my blog personality is more extroverted, but I'm really a solid introvert. I also don't tell a lot of people about my writing in general, because I'm not published yet. Maybe someday...

Clarissa Draper said...

Two people in the real world know I blog - my husband and son. Other than that, it's just my followers and blogging buddies.

Cherie Reich said...

Hm, I never really thought to tell people I blog. I do mention it to writer friends and here and there, but I don't usually say it in my list of things I do as much (despite the fact I claim "book blogger" on my email signature). Heh, I guess I just assumed people would know or something.

Brooke said...

Wow, I never thought about it. The people that know I've told in person... my family does... but other than that like 2... The people I've told online... hundreds. On Facebook I advertise all the time with every new post c:

Eve.E said...

WOW!! Do you know what?? I've never given it much thought to tell people who I know that I blog. My Mum and hubby know but other than that I have never really bothered. I think it's because deep down, it's a place I go to have a little rant of just ramble on about day to day things.

Matthew MacNish said...

My family are the only people who know I blog. I don't really know why I don't tell anyone else.

Laura Barnes said...

Wow, I hadn't really thought about it. But I don't tell people I blog. I just don't think they'll get it. Of course, I do stream it to FB so people probably figure it out :) Still, I can't imagine saying it out loud to very many people. Hmm, does that mean I'm insecure about it?

Beth said...

You have a big blog. I've been doing this for two years now and have a fraction of your followers. I think you should be proud of it. And you get awards. Tell everyone. Lots of people can't blog. It's an easy thing to quit doing.

Heather said...

I've never hesitated to tell people, but now that you mention it, before I got published no one aside from my online friends even knew that I blogged. I guess I never mentioned it because I knew they wouldn't understand why I do it.

David P. King said...

Most people I know know that I blog. I guess I have no qualms telling people that I do. You know it's bad when your blog address is included with the annual Christmas letter. :)

Rek said...

Many don't even know I like to write so blogging is hardly mentioned. My generation of friends and family with looming 40's and middle age has other priorities taking over their lives. Blogging got me into the groove of writing again after a decade so it can't be that bad a thing.

Susan Roebuck said...

Most people I know in real life know I write, but hardly any of them know I blog. They wouldn't be interested in my bloggy ramblings lol (they're not interested in my writing either, come to that!!!)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I have a hard time even mentioning that I'm an author!
I don't have a website - my blog is it - so if I send anyone to my 'site,' they see my blog. Those that know me take one look and know it's me and I'm sure those who don't wonder what on earth - is he a movie critique or a writer?

Cassie Mae said...

I'm just the opposite! I tell people I blog all the time, then let them find out I write by reading it, lol.

Carrie Butler said...

I don't talk about it much. Our writing community is a nice, safe place to be vulnerable. I'm not sure I'm ready to expose myself that way. Know what I mean?

Christine Rains said...

You know, I never thought about it, but I'm the same as you. A lot of people know I write, but few know I blog.

M.J. Fifield said...

Most people know I write (although if asked, I almost never say I'm a writer) but not many people know I blog, especially not the people I work with. I have a tendency to say less than flattering things about my day job. It's just better if they don't know.

Charles Gramlich said...

I neither make a secret of it nor tell a lot of folks. I figure most people I see in day to day life don't care. But I do mention it on occasion when it seems to come up in conversation

~Sia McKye~ said...

Blogging Vs Writing?
In the beginning I think it did. Mostly because it felt awkward. Kind of like when I first did radio work.

Now? Pffft. I don't care.You like it or you don't. I believe in being me.

I'm proud of my blog I've worked hard to make it look inviting and professional. I go to conference, I hand out business cards for the blog.

Family and friends know. People in town know I blog and where, my son's friends do and pop by once and awhile. My blog is a different sort. I promote, talk, chat, whatever with authors a couple of times a week.

My personal blog day is Mondays. I talk about whatever comes to mind.

Sia McKye OVER COFFEE

Jessica Salyer said...

When I first started to blog I didn't tell anyone. Then as I got more comfortable and secure, I told my family then posted it on my FB page. Now I don't think there are too many people that don't know. I don't say anything on my blog that I wouldn't say in person.

Sofia said...

Recently a couple of my friends told another friend who I don't know very well that I blog. The girl started following me, and I just feel really uncomfortable about that. I wasn't comfortable with the friends who told the girl about it, knowing that I did it, and where it was, etc. and then them going and telling someone else made me really uncomfortable. I like my little corner of the internet, and I don't feel comfortable with people who I know, reading it, and judging it. I have one friend who I'm quite comfortable knowing about it, but that's because I helped set up hers, and she's my neighbor, and we're pretty close. But this other girl? I don't feel comfortable with her knowing about it, and reading what I write. I'm fine with strangers reading it, but people I know? I feel like that's weird.

-Sofie

Sananora said...

I think writing is a more sensitive subject for me than blogging. But, then, Blogging is sorta sensitive too. I suppose I tell more people I write than that I blog.

When I tell someone I write, I don't really think they quite realize what I mean (They can only understand when they see my piles of notebooks around my bedroom, or hear my word count is 75,205 words :).

I'd say that I'm more outgoing on my blog than in person. For the most part, I don't mind keeping my blog just for those who find it.

Liz said...

I don't keep my blogging a secret. I have a policy of not writing anything that I'd be embarrassed to have others read. That keeps me honest.

My family knows I blog (most don't read it though). My friends are exposed to my blog on Facebook (it automatically posts there, too). If something happens at work that is blog-worthy, I may mention that it'll make a brilliant post. (There's a reason I don't use names or if I do I change them.)

But other than that, I don't mention it unless it comes up. And it doesn't that often.

Belle said...

I don't tell anyone I blog, but my daughters tell everyone! All their friends follow me which is nice of them.

Marsha Sigman said...

I don't mention it right up front but then I don't mention the writing either unless it's a fellow writer. My family and close friends know and that's enough. But I'm pretty much the same on the internet as I am in person.

Except my hair looks better on my blog...and I swear more in person. I'm trying to stop. Ok, not really. But I feel bad.

Tania. F. Walsh said...

I tell most people I blog, but interestingly, those who aren't into blogging, don't know much about it, and almost never visit my blog... so I kinda don't bother... I know sad...

Emily R. King said...

Hmmm, I'd say writing is the more sensitive subject, which is funny, because I have a writer's blog! But telling people I blog means very little to them and they ask less questions than if I say I write. I try to avoid the subject of writing entirely, unless it's someone I know well and trust.

Shelley said...

I'm the same way when it comes to telling people about my blog. I'm also introverted. Though I don't write fiction. I don't mind talking about my writing though. :)

Medeia Sharif said...

I'm sensitive about writing and blogging, but I'm more sensitive about the latter. Most of the people who know about my blog are fellow bloggers. IRL people Google me and find out I blog. I rarely tell them I do it.

Memzie said...

I guess blogging. Mostly because I think my blog is silly. :D

Honey said...

Only my husband, kids, and sister know and can view my blog. It's personal but also professional in the sense that I'm trying to build a platform, so these same people are also the only ones who know I write. So I understand where you are coming from.

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I guess I never thought about that. Only a few of my 'day job' friends and my family know I blog. Maybe I should say something more.

Nancy Thompson said...

I tell very few friends and family. Don't know why that is. I'm proud of my blog. And if they're interested, they can always link up via my Facebook page. Other than that, I won't shove it in their faces.

The Writing Hour. said...

Only my boyfriend knows I have this blog, and he actually does read it! He doesn't write at all, in fact he barely even reads. The other day he asked me what "WIP" stands for haha.
I think I shy away from sharing the blog with people I know personally because I think I'd write differently if I knew family/friends were reading it.

Jamie Gibbs said...

I'm the other way around - I tell anyone who asks about my blog (though I don't expect them to actually visit) but I tend to keep my writing under my hat (unless it's something humorous). The ones that I do tell "I write fantasy" I get the glazed-over eye look so I just don't bother anymore :)

Jeremy Bates said...

I'm exact opposite.... don't tell that many people i write unless they ask but don't mind telling them i blog etc...

Elaine AM Smith said...

I have no problem with people knowing that I write and blog. My friends lurk - they don't comment in the comment box - they say they can comment louder in my ear! ;)

Jen Chandler said...

I understand. It's different when you're writing about YOU and when you're writing about characters you've created. I'm a bit hesitant to talk about either aspects of my writing life. I've found that most of the people I know aren't too keen on writing or reading and tend to look down on writing.

That's why I'm so thankful for the people I know through blogging! A very supportive community here!

Happy Thursday and great post!
Jen

DWei said...

2 people know I blog. One is my girlfriend, one is a friend who helps me out with something.

Other than that, no one. And I intend to keep it that way.

Stuart Nager said...

I have no problem telling about my writing, but I do have some misgivings saying I have two blogs. I still consider myself more a writer than a blogger.

Mark Noce said...

Having a slice of the blog is definitely something worthwhile. I never expected blogging to be so cool, and now that I do it all the time it's hard to describe to other people who don't blog. Either way, I consider all my fellow blogger friends (even though we haven't met face to face). :)

Krispy said...

They're both kind of sensitive topics for me, but I completely understand your reluctance to talk about blogging. A good number of my friends do know that I blog, and some of them even read it, but they rarely comment. I almost forget that they know about it until they mention it or comment, and then I get all self-conscious. Haha. I think it definitely has to do with the idea of what do the people you know in Real Life think of your web persona.

Carol Kilgore said...

I'll tell people I'm a writer before I'll tell them I blog. I think for the same reason as you - blogging is much more the real me. I can't hide behind characters. All that said, now that I've been doing it all for a few years, I pretty much just blurt everything out.

M Pax said...

I think it's a separation of public and private persona. Most people know I blog, but very few ever visit. That's OK. :) I like the separation, too.

Susan Kane said...

That is a good question...I don't know many bloggers personally at all. I never thought about it until now.

Southpaw said...

That's kind of interesting, but understandable too. Blogging tells all - sort of.

I was doing research just yesterday and was asking specific questions. The person cocked his head and asked, "Are you writing a book?" I was caught so off guard I just said yes. His response "Cool."

It was weird, but good too.

Beth said...

I do tell people that I blog, and I love it when they follow me. It took me a much longer time to tell them I wrote when I was just starting out.

Kari Marie White said...

Interesting post. I hadn't thought about it before. I tell people I write for fun. I don't really tell people I blog. Hardly anybody knows. I think you might be right in that blogging is really me. I guess my introverted side comes out when I think of people reading about me.

My fiction is different. It's a reflection of me, but it's hidden, buried underneath my characters and their problems.

Theresa Milstein said...

I think everyone knows I blog except for people at work. My kids have told their teachers--especially my son because he told his ELA teacher I met Lois Lowry, so he directed her to my post. And I have it at the bottom of my e-mails, so a few people have surprised me by saying they read my blog.

Deniz Bevan said...

I don't mind telling people. But it's an odd phenomenon that of all the people I know in 'real life' only a handful blog regularly. Even the writers and artists!

Lynda R Young said...

I hadn't thought about that. I don't like telling people I write oddly enough. And I don't tend to tell people I blog but it's more out of neglect than anything else. The one time I did tell someone they looked totally unenthused.

Talli Roland said...

Pretty much everyone and their dog know I blog! :) I'm not shy about it at all.

Misha Gericke said...

Pretty much everyone I come in contact with. It's not something I'm shy of at all. I worked my butt off to get it where it is now. :-)

Ellie Garratt said...

Fascinating post because I'm very much the same as you. I'll willingly tell people about my writing but not my blog. I wonder why that is? I shall think on this question futher!

N. R. Williams said...

Hi Golden
I'm not shy about either, but I don't necessarily just start talking about it. You are mature for your age and I suspect that your peers may criticize you. People out grow that kind of thing or else they become critics.
Nancy

nutschell said...

I think everyone of my fb friends know I blog--possibly because I've set my blog posts to automatically announce themselves on facebook :P

Happy weekend!
Nutschell
www.thewritingnut.com

Sarah said...

My facebook friends are aware, since I link there, but it isn't something I talk about much in real life. Feels awkward to talk about. "So, I wrote this blog entry the other day..."

Sarah Pearson said...

My Honey and my two daughters know. That's it, nobody else.

The Golden Eagle said...

Pat: It feels the same way to me, too. Blogging is part of my life but it still feels somewhat separated from everything else.

Christine: I think all writers have an element of strangeness to them. :) In a good way, of course!

Old Kitty: Interesting. I guess a lot of bloggers don't tell people that they blog . . . .

Emily: Same here. I'm quiet in person, but I don't have as much of a problem writing posts and commenting, usually.

Holly: True! If your blog targets writers, it's likely non-writers wouldn't find it as applicable to what they do.

Siv: I've never been asked that question--I didn't even know you could make money off of blogging and other internet endeavors until I'd done it for several months!

Joshua: I don't like talking in public, either. I'll do it, but I much prefer quiet places where there are just people I know.

Laurel: Which is definitely an accomplishment!

MISH: Me, too. On both counts of being a private person and not wanting to explain writing.

Gaylene: I think that's what we all hope for. :) Someday!

Clarissa: Yup--you can't really blog without other bloggers finding out. :P

Cherie: It seems a lot of bloggers let other people know they blog through social networking and email.

Brooke: I think it would be harder to hide from family than anyone else. Blogging can take a lot of time, after all.

Eve.E: Hmmm. I feel the same way about some of my posts; they're my thoughts, and I'm not sure I'd want everyone I know reading them.

Matthew: It appears most bloggers are quiet about their internet activities!

Laura: I'm not sure. I know I'm a little insecure about my blogging (hence my post for IWSG)--I'm just trying to figure out why, precisely.

Beth: It is. Probably because it's online, blogs are easy to neglect and then drop completely--there isn't the physical presence of people.

Heather: Can be hard to explain, can't it? At least for me.

David: LOL. Nah, I don't think that's bad; people sign their emails with their URLs.

Rek: Definitely not! :)

Susan: It's interesting how much contrast there can be between you and people you know IRL; especially if you're a writer.

The Golden Eagle said...

Alex: You should mention it to people! A published book under your belt and another one to come? That's awesome.

I don't see why someone can't be both. :)

Cassie: Things can be easier to communicate through written words.

Carrie: Absolutely. In the blogosphere there are a lot of people who know what it's like to be in the situation you're in.

Christine: It's quite interesting to read all the comments here about blogging and writing. Many writer-bloggers seem to stay quiet about one or the other . . .

M.J.: The blogosphere can be a good place to vent--not the best place for people you know, as a consequence.

Charles: That's the way I tend to treat my writing. But blogging I'm quieter about.

Sia: Good for you! :) That's a good thing to believe in as any.

Jessica: Sounds like a wise policy. I don't usually talk about people I know IRL on my blog--but there are some posts I've written that people I know might disagree with.

Sofia: I'd feel the same way in such a situation. You don't know what someone like that will think of everything if you don't know them well--and it's always uncomfortable if someone you don't know well has seen a personal element of you.

Sananora: Only writers understand what it means to have a 70k+ novel on your hand. :)

Me, too.

Liz: It's not an easy thing to bring up in conversation. Though if someone asks if I social network that does open up a channel for mentioning blogging . . .

Belle: It is! :)

Marsha: I'm much more extroverted when blogging than in person; though I still get introverted urges when some blogging element requires I reveal more of myself.

Tania: Well, you're braver than me, at any rate. I rarely bring up blogging with people.

Emily: I don't mind telling strangers that I write (at least not much), for some reason.

Shelley: Lots of bloggers seem to be introverts!

Medeia: No one I know ever Googles me--the pseudonym I use kind of messes up that attempt. :P

Memzie: I don't think it's silly! You're a great blogger.

Honey: Good point. Writer platform is primarily for the internet; I guess if you meet someone in person, you might as well pitch your book to them as much as your blog.

Susan: Up to you! I don't think there's any mandate for telling people you blog; I was just curious to find out what other bloggers thought about it.

kelworthfiles said...

There's quite a few people who I've told about my writing blog - I've even handed out business cards about it to complete strangers! With work friends or other people, it depends on how interested they are about personal stuff in general whether I'd mention blogging.

The Golden Eagle said...

Nancy: Me, neither. I really hate the idea of trying to force something I do onto another person . . .

The Writing Hour: Good old writer jargon. LOL.

I think I would, too.

Jamie: People do tend to look down on writing and writers--sigh. They just don't get what it's like to work hard on an MS. :P

Jeremy: With good reason. You have an awesome site!

Elaine: LOL. Well, it can be easier to just talk to someone them communicate electronically, sometimes.

Jen: At least there's the excuse of "It's not me! It's that awful character who took over my brain!"

Yes, there is a great community. :)

Thank you!

DWei: I remember your post where you announced your girlfriend had found out you blogged.

Stuart: I suppose image would be a part of things, too. Everything you identify with can alter the way other people see you.

Mark: Same here! :)

Krispy: And it's that moment when you don't know what they will think that holds back from mentioning blogging . . .

Carol: They do say to be bold!

M: It is good to have borders here and there.

Susan: I have to wonder how many people I pass on the street are bloggers. They don't tend to have the various neuroses that writers do (though that might be wrong!) so it's impossible to tell.

Southpaw: All that you say, of course, which can (and is, in my case) be quite a lot.

That's an awesome response!

Beth: It's good to know people you interact with IRL enjoy what you post. :)

Kari: Thanks!

I think that's why I don't tell people, too.

Theresa: Sounds like you have a solid real life audience!

Deniz: I don't think I know anyone IRL that blog. Though, of course, I can't be absolutely sure of that.

Lynda: Which was a mistake on their part, because blogging is awesome. :)

Talli: Good for you!

Misha: Which is an amazing state of blogging.

Ellie: Thanks.

If you find an answer, I hope you'll come back to share what you found! :)

Nancy: Peer pressure is undoubtedly part of it. There's always the instinct to "fit in"--though most of the time I hate following any kind of mold.

Nutschell: Sounds like a good way to get the word out.

Sarah: I don't think I could ever easily say that--unless I was talking to another blogger or writer!

Sarah: Only my mom knows my URL. So I keep it to a very close circle, too. :)

The Golden Eagle said...

Kelworthfiles: I've entertained the idea of creating business cards for my blog. I could never come up with a solid reason to do it, though, so no cards--yet. :P

Janet Johnson said...

Very few of the people I know in real life know I blog. Family and a couple of friends. Not many. I'm more willing to tell people I write than to tell people I blog, too. I agree with your thoughts . . . something about the blog being my own personality and thoughts there makes me nervous.

Nas Dean said...

Hey- apart from my own daughter at home no one in my country is aware of my blog!

Ty-shaun Aristoph Coles said...

I'm very private so when I have discussions with people on certain topics they don't know I already addressed them on my blog; I keep my blog to myself and my family, girlfriend included, and a one friend while all the rest of the world find out through searching the web. I won't willingly tell a soul what I do, except my lovely lady and my momma, of course. Besides, if your thoughts are slick enough to touch the internet then why not tell the world. . . . Oh yeah, I follow your blog now, and I hope you check out mine.

Chow!

Mary Aalgaard, Play off the Page said...

Oh, my, look at all your followers and comments! Maybe in real life, it feels like you're being too different, but that's what makes you - YOU. I tell everyone about my blog. I believe that they are interested in me, what I enjoy doing, and that writing is what makes me whole.
Write on!
Play off the Page

cestlavie22 said...

You know I never really thought about it before but only the people closest to me know I blog...they all know I write though. I am really not sure why that is...maybe I am an insecure writer.

Claire Hennessy said...

I am an extrovert, I suppose, so I tell everyone! No more secrets for me. Also helps that I am teaching myself not to worry about what anyone else thinks! I've given you an Award over on my blog :)

Sangu Mandanna said...

I feel much the same as you - I don't tend to tell people I know that I blog. I'm not sure why :-s

The Golden Eagle said...

Janet: Good to know I'm not the only one who feels that way. :)

Nas: And for me, it's just my mom who has my URL.

Ty-shaun: I'm a private person, too. Though I haven't had a topic that I addressed on my blog come up in conversation; I guess because a lot of the topics here have to do with writing and I don't know any writers in person (at least, I don't think I do . . .).

Thank you so much for following my blog! :)

Mary: I think this may be an all-time record for comments on The Eagle's Aerial Perspective. WOOT.

That is true--I know I tend to give more of myself online, and less of it in person.

Cestlavie22: I think all writers are insecure. Actually, make everyone; we all have something that we worry and stress about.

Claire: Good for you!

Awesome! I'm off to check it out. :D

Sangu: It's an interesting phenomenon, that so many bloggers keep their blogging to themselves.

Scarlett Clay said...

Only a few people I know personally know about my blog, and most of them don't really look at it. I would have to say that you have a lot of folks out there interested in what you're doing...80 something comments, that's amazing!!

Trisha said...

Yep, I admit that most people don't know I blog, either. I haven't really advertised it, and I've kept my surname off my blog. I'm actually tossing up whether or not to add my surname, so that more people can find me. I've been thinking about it for many months (maybe longer), but haven't bitten the bullet yet!

The Golden Eagle said...

Scarlett: It is--I never expected this many comments, at all! I think the blogosphere may have broken a record here on The Eagle's Aerial Perspective. :)

Trisha: I think your blog is fine without a surname. Though I guess if you were to publish, it would be a lot harder to find you online. Unless you became uber-famous and became THE Trisha. :)